My Father and Best Friend passed away today:(

[ring657130]

My dad passed away today at approx 3pm est. Please finish reading....There is a GOD!
Ihave a story to tell even tho' I am distraught... We had a meeting with the Dr.s today for 11:30am. They told us he was stable, found NO CANCER from biopsies, but due to the fact he had liver and kidney failure he can hang on for a long time. The plans were to transfer him ambulance back to a hospital near my home, so we can visit him daily. She went to make arrangements for the transfer and was going to remove fluid from his belly at 3pm. I haven't seen my dad in 6 days but talked to him daily on telelphone. Told him I coulodn't see him until Saturday. We kept hugging each other and he even was happy he was going back home. The Dr. said she hasn't seen his spirits so uplifted since we arrived, as all week he would only answer yes and no questions and wouldn't even eat. My father and I had such a close bond that I cannot describe.... but am proud of! He kept squeezing me ans telling me that he loves me so much that I would not even know how much. But Idid....Anyway while we were hugging hekept telling me "the light" it's so so bright and tried tocover his eyes and ( there were absolutely NO lights on in the room and the shades and curtain were shut! He even rang the nurse call button and told the nurse That I wouldn't shut the lights off!!! The nurse even asked him "What light"? The room was dimexcept for the nurses station that he was next to and the heart monitor screen that was in his room. ........We hugged and kissed and he told me he'll see at home.....I left to go home. I wasn't even home yet as it is a 3 hour ride. The Dr. called the cell phone because she was gving him "tap" to relieve the fluid and she said something developed...She got him prepared and he then stopped breathing,then his heart stopped. She was upset as we were. My fathers wishes were if he did pass for them not to resucitate. Now We all knew what the Bright Light was....It was either my Mom, Brother,or God saying he was coming for him. I just had to tell you all this as I have heard of this happening....but now I have experienced it.... and I believemy Father waited to go home until he saw me One Last Time and To Tell me How Much He Loved Me and yes he did go Home......just not mine I LOVE YOU DADDY

 

[CareyG]

Oh Ring I am so so sorry to hear about your dad. I believe you are right and he waited to see you one last time before he went "home". After seeing you he felt at peace and ready to go, that should give you great comfort. He loved you very much and he is happy now and waiting for the day when you will be together again. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family hon.​

 

[judyb57]

Oh Ring, thank you for sharing that lovely story with us! I know that your dad is now at peace and when he said he would see you at home, he really did mean it. God bless his soul and comfort you and your family. What a wonderful man he must have been!

 

[Spin2Win]

Ring, my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Thanks for sharing your story, I too believe it was "home" that your precious Dad was seeing in the light. He's suffering no more .... perhaps you can find some degree of comfort in that.

My prayers are with you all.

 

[labell]

Thank you for sharing that with us, how wonderful that your dad said he'd see you at home! Wow what a comforting feeling that must be for you!

 

[lucky639]

I am sorry to hear of your loss, dear but thanks for sharing your dads story. It was very touching. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[ring657130]

Ty Everyone so much it means a lot to me. The hardest day of my life will be Wedneday when I see him in the coffin....It was in our local online newspaper today in case anyone was interested....I'm Karen Pope AKA as ring657130 My children, Ashley age14, Brittany 12, Samantha 8 and Jim Jr...2. http://www.legacy.com/timesleader/Obituaries.asp?Page=Lifestory&PersonId=122222829

 

[judyb57]

Karen, my heart goes out to hon. I will be there with you spiritually through this hard time! Stay strong and rember not to grieve his death but celebrate his life!

Judy Byrd

 

[freedom]

Praying for you as you say good-bye to your father today. Thank you for sharing your experience. There is a loving Father who watches over us all.

 

[ring657130]

Thankyou Judy for signing his guestbook. And Thankyou Judy And Freedom....I needed to hear that, it did make me smile at least for a few seconds. I am so so depressed and may need medication....I have thought about going with him believe it or not....But I promised my father I wouldn't and I MUst keep my word...My dads favorite poem was "The Broken Chain" which he had made especially engraved in stone for my mom and brother when they passed with their names on it. He is getting creamated and placed on top my mom at there summer home under a walnut tree of which my mom planted from a seedling in 1976. I will also be there on top of them.
The home is to stay in the family for generations...hopefully. I will not be online tomorrow but TY and GODBLESS All andTY so much for the prayers cuz I need strength real bad. My dad was a jokerster and man am I going to miss him making me laugh!

 

[judyb57]

Ahhhhh Karen, your father would not want you to think of joining him until it is your time hon. Your children are your anchor right now. Share your memories of their grandfather with them. Show them pictures of him often and remind them of what a great man he was. Share some of the stories and jokes he pulled on people. Let people help you get through this trying time hon.

 

[Casinoman]

Ring I am so sorry for your loss. A Father/Daughter bond in one that is so very special and I am glad to have it with my little girl and she is my bright light as well.

Your Dad went to a better place for sure and you can have comfort in knowing that hun.. I'll share a story with you all that made me think real hard about things recently.

I met a guy in the office at work. This gentleman had suffered a heart attach a few yrs back and died on the spot but was brought back to live. Tom in one of those guys who isn't a overly reliegious man and not one who runs around sharing this story with just anyone who listens but I pursued him out of interest.

He clearly remembers being drawn towards a bright light and seeing still frames of different times in his life. He said the bright light was the face of Jesus and as he got almost upon him he heard a loud voice above him tell him "GO BACK"!

Tom wasbrought back to life at that point. I asked Tom about this experience and asked if he had spoken to Jesus during this experience and he said Yes. He said there were several messages that he reieved but only one he was to share with others and that was...

EVERYONE goes to Heaven!

I said to him...but this doesn't make sense as it doesn't agree with biblical teachings and Tom simply said this to me and this is what made the difference for me and what I hope wil make all of you see things clearly like it did for me.

Tom said to me...Who wrote the bible? I said ..well ...man did? He said exactly and said that just ecause the bible states one thing does not mean it is fact and that his message recieved was very clear to bring back to this earth...EVERYONE goes to heaven - PERIOD!

I am not one to go to church but believe in human spirituality an d this definatly gave me the answers I was looking for! so Ring... Your Dad is looking down on his little girl and smiling with love in his heart! just as you are remembering all about him with the same feelings.

 

[judyb57]

Thank you for sharing that casinoman. There is so much that none of us really know.

 

[cas1944]

You were blessed with a wonderful dad who left you some beautiful memories.
May the memories of his love keep you strong in this time of sorrow.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[sorcer3ss]

Dear Karen I am so sorry to hear of your loss, it is so painful when you lose a loved one. I am very glad that he left you with the wonderful memory of telling you how much he loved you, that is what you need to hold onto for now. I will pray for you.

 

[ring657130]

TY Casinoman for that beautiful story, and TY everyone for reaching out to me, as I do need prayers tobe strong as I am super depressed and am ashamed tosay this but I stupid Twice in my life and did try to commit suicide. I promised my father I would be there for mychildren ages, 14,12,8,and 2. I just had my dad for 46 years of my life and worry how long long my children will have me > My mom passed at 62, my brother 28 and dad 67. I truly wished Ihad mychildren much sooner as I will be 61 when my son ( 2yrs old now) finishes high school. I pray I can get through this as I always grew upbelieving I'd see my parents be old and grey in their 80's and me in my 60's. Life does not get easier as we get older I find it gets harder!

 

[MotelPrisoner]

Oh Ring, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know there are few words to bring you comfort in this distressing time. Just know that your Dad is in a better place than us and he is smiling down upon you and giving you the stregnth to raise your children until it is time to join him. Your children need you more than ever now and they need to learn how to deal with their grief from you.

I know how you feel about wanting to join him now; and trust me when I say that feeling will pass with time. Now is the time to share your stories about your Dad with your children and celebrate his life with them. My daughter was only 6 months old when my Dad passed but she feels as if she has known him all her life now, 20 some odd years later. She smiles when we talk about him and I see my Dad in her smile.

Hang in there, Ring...you've got the support and prayers of your "other" family here at the Streak to lean on.

 

[ring657130]

TY MOTEL,,,,Itruly needed to hear that.

 

[ring657130]

I may be in the need of counseling . I wake myself up at night screaming "DADDY". I still can't believehe is truly gone and my mind still thinks he's in thehospital.

 

[judyb57]

I may be in the need of counseling . I wake myself up at night screaming "DADDY". I still can't believehe is truly gone and my mind still thinks he's in thehospital.

You poor thing. Go get counseling then hon. There is nothing wrong with needing some help through a terrible trauma like this. Perhaps even something from your doctor to help you get through this. I am sorry, it must be so hard. It will take time but trust me, you WILL get through this!